Healthy Relationship tools and tips

Is your relationship healthy?

• How to Tell the Difference Between a Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship | HealthyPlace
• Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships – Counseling Center from University of Alabama
• Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships | Husky Health & Well-Being from University of Washington
• 6 Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships from Lifehacker
• 10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship – One Love Foundation vs 10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship – One Love Foundation
• How to Tell If You’re Dating a Vulnerable Narcissist (and What to Do About It)
• 4 Red Flags That Your Tinder Match Might Be Fake
• How to Spot ‘Breadcrumbing’ in Your Relationships, and What to Do About It. It’s a cutesy, if accurate, name for when someone seems to be continuously signaling their interest in growing your relationship—but they only give you enough to keep you coming back for more, whether that’s an unexpected late night call or a few unprompted, early morning heart eye emoji texts.
• How to Tell If You’re in a Dysfunctional Relationship
• What Is a Parasocial Relationship (and How to Know If You’re in One)?
• The Difference Between Secrecy and Privacy in Relationships according to Lifehacker
• Signs You May Be Having an Emotional Affair (and What to Do About It) 
• Sexual Gaslighting Is a Thing (and How to Identify It)
• Domestic Violence Hotline  – 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides essential tools and support to help survivors of domestic violence so they can live their lives free of abuse. Contacts to The Hotline can expect highly-trained, expert advocates to offer free, confidential, and compassionate support, crisis intervention information, education, and referral services in over 200 languages.
• Love is Respect – A project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, love is respect offers 24/7 information, support, and advocacy to young people between the ages of 13 and 26 who have questions or concerns about their romantic relationships. We also provide support to concerned friends and family members, teachers, counselors, and other service providers through the same free and confidential services via phone, text, and live chat.
• Personalized Safety Plan – Although you can’t control an abuser’s use of violence, you can plan how you will respond to future abusive or violent incidents, prepare for the possibility of an incident happening, and plan how get to safety. It is your decision if and when you tell others that you have being abused, or that you are still at risk. Friends, family, and coworkers can help with your safety plan if they are aware of the situation and want to help.
• Get Help – Victim Connect Resource Center
• Child Abuse Reporting Guidelines
• When Sexual Intercourse* with a Minor Must Be Reported as Child Abuse by Mandated Reporters: California Law

Will your relationship last?

• 17 Signs Your Relationship Will Last a Lifetime | Inc.com
• 15 Questions to Help Decide if a Relationship Has a Future | Psychology Today
• 9 Early Signs A Relationship Won’t Last Long-Term, According To Experts from Bustle
• 20 Things To Make A Relationship Last from Lifehacker
• How to Make a Relationship Last: 5 Secrets From Research | Time
• Researchers find a secret ‘tell’ that reveals if a couple heading for a breakup – GOOD
• How to Tell If Someone Is Emotionally Available according to LifeHacker
• 15 Questions to Help Decide if a Relationship Has a Future | Psychology Today
• A Keltner List for Relationships – cafebedouin.org
• Don’t Overlook These Relationship Green Flags
• What Polyamory Can Teach Us About Secure Attachment

Handling conflicts and understanding your partner

• How to Defuse an Argument with Your Partner – Mindful
• How to Find a Couples Therapist Who Can Actually Help You – The Gottman Institute
• Three Steps to Understanding Your Partner’s Emotions from the Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley
• Essential Steps to Better Relationships | Alison Poulsen | TEDxSunValley
• How to Break the Cycle of Having the Same Argument Over and Over from Lifehacker
• Set Boundaries With a Friend Who Treats You Like a Therapist from Lifehacker  
• The Best Way to Deal With a Flaky Friend
• What to Do When Your Partner Spends All Day on the Couch
• What to Say When Someone Is Giving You the Silent Treatment
• What to Do If Your Partner Turns Into a Conspiracy Theorist according to Lifehacker 
• When and How to Talk About Mental Illness in a New Relationship according to LifeHacker
• Do These Little Things at the Start of Your Relationship, Experts Say
• When Both Partners in a Relationship Have Mental Illness | The Mighty
• The Drama Triangle Explained – Leadership Tribe US
• Karpman’s Drama Triangle – Kathryn Kissell
• Karpman’s Drama Triangle – Bondi Hypnotherapy Clinic
• What Is Phubbing And How Does It Impact Relationships? | IFLScience
• The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene u1lib
• Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better at It? by Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness

Date Ideas

• 5 Virtual Date Ideas for Long-Distance Couples from MakeUseOf

Improving relationships

• Avoid This Common Relationship Trap, We’re Begging You – This Lifehacker article discusses why  “Making assumptions about your partner’s motivations isn’t a good idea.”
• How to Be a Better Friend according to Lifehacker
• How to Fix a One-Sided Friendship from Lifehacker
• How to Build Meaningful Relationships, According to Plato from Lifehacker
• How to Maintain a Long-Distance Relationship from Lifehacker
• How to Maintain a Friendship Through Life Changes from Lifehacker
• How to Tell a Friend They Hurt You Even If You’re Emotionally Constipated
• How to Win Over Your Significant Other’s Friends
• Recognize Phrases That Sound Like Gaslighting, But Really Aren’t
• 6 Questions to Help Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationship | Mindful.org 
• 7 Signs You’re Being A Bad Friend (And How To Be A Better One) | HuffPost
• 19 Best Apps For Couples in 2022 to Improve Relationship
• 21 Ways to be a Good Friend for Someone With a Mental Illness | The Mighty
• Free resources from the Hendricks Institute. The Hendricks Institute offers a wide variety of relationship self help training courses, products, books, seminars, and services focused on teaching core skills for conscious living and conscious loving relationships.
• The Love Language™ Quiz 

Mindfulness in Relationships

• Daily Practices to Strengthen Your Relationship in Challenging Times – Mindful 
• Is Mindfulness Helpful for Romantic Relationships? from Mindful.org
• How Small Moments of Empathy Affect Your Life: Empathy is one of many skills that help us build better relationships. 
• How to Talk More Respectfully About Interracial Relationships
• Why Relationships Are Key to Well-Being – Mindful
• How Friends Help You Regulate Your Emotions
• How Radical Friendship Can Lead to Social Change Greater Good of Berekely discusses going beyond allyship.
• Why Your Friends Are Probably More Popular, Richer, and More Attractive Than You according to Lifehacker
• How to Date Someone Who’s Sober Without Making It a Thing 

Finding someone

• Conventional wisdom says we shouldn’t date our friends. It’s wrong. – Big Think
• How to Choose the Best Kind of Friend for You, According to Aristotle
• How to Make Friends After a Big Life Change (or Ever)
• Why You Should Have Intergenerational Friendships
• How to Make Friends When Socially Distancing – Goodnet
• How to Meet the Right Person Online With Meetville according to MakeUseOf
• Girlfriend Social  is a website that connects women with new female friendships. This website is for Ladies only, who just like you, are looking to make platonic women friendships. Inside women can make new friends with fabulous ladies in a safe and friendly environment. If you are feeling lonely, bored, or isolated, don’t worry! You can meet friends inside in your local area or anywhere around the world. We are the largest online female friendship site in the world. Your new best friend is waiting to meet you!
• Tired of Tinder? The 10 Best Free Alternative Dating Apps according to MakeUseOf
• Bumble BFF for platonic friendships
• Bumble – Bumble, But for Besties? Yes! Here’s How to Use Bumble BFF

Ending and ended relationships

• How to Respond to a Random Text From a Toxic Ex by Lifehacker
• Should I Break Up With My Annoying (But Longtime) Friend? from Lifehacker
• What Not to Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup (and What to Say Instead) from Lifehacker
• Is the ‘Slow Fade’ Worse Than Ghosting?
• The Ultimate Adele/Taylor Swift Breakup Song Compilation from Lifehacker
• How to (Finally) Actually Move on From a Relationship
• How to Get a Divorce With No Money | legalzoom.com
• How to Pay for a Divorce Lawyer with No Money

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